No one wants to be an infamous bridezilla, but sometimes, it is easy to become consumed by the wedding and slip into the dangerous bridezilla zone without even realizing it. Here are five ways to avoid becoming a bridezilla and to make sure your friends and family still talk to you after the big day.
Be Money Wise
Weddings are expensive, so you need to be cautious about your financial expectations. Don’t be afraid to talk about money. Ask your families and bridal party how much they are comfortable spending, and respect their requests. Don’t assume that everyone will be willing to overspend because you fell in love with something outside of your budget.
Give Up Some Control
You will have enough wedding planning tasks that you don’t need to worry yourself with planning a shower, bachelorette party or rehearsal dinner. In fact, it is not your job to plan those productions. That is what your families and bridesmaids are for. Don’t ruin their fun.
Don’t Forget About Your Guests
Yes, your wedding is your day, but you are not the only person who should have a good time. When making decisions about the ceremony and reception, keep your guests and families in mind. If a three hour drive to your dream location is difficult for the majority of your family, maybe you should consider another arrangement. If your mother-in-law or mom makes a special request, try to accommodate it. Obviously, you can’t please everyone, but you can at least accept that the world does not revolve around you just because it is your wedding day.
It is easy to get caught up in the vision of your dream wedding, but sometimes, your dreams aren’t realistic. You don’t want to physically, financially or emotionally strain yourself, your fiancé, your families or your friends in order to create your dream wedding. Don’t insist on a dress that will put you in debt for the next five years, and don’t overwhelm yourself with making 200 handmade favors if you work 60 hours a week. Plan a wedding you will love, but be realistic.
Find Ways to De-stress
Planning a wedding is stressful. There is no way to avoid this, but you can find ways to deal with it. Don’t let yourself take out your wedding stress on family and friends. Find other outlets such as exercise or meditation.
I’d love to know, have you encountered a bridezilla? Share your stories in the comment section below.